Cheating Spouse

Decision Time

Are you being betrayed by your mate/partner? Wouldn't you like to have the necessary proof to put your suspicions to rest once and for all? If so, Maya & Maya Inc. will assist you in capturing that much-needed peace of mind. Together we will take on a quest for evidence that will undoubtedly yield a greater acceptance of reality and, consequently, provide the relief that comes with knowing the truth to such burdensome worries. Maya & Maya Inc. advises that it is simply not a good idea to try to collect the evidence yourself. Let professionals do the job the right way – and without the emotion that can blind you to important details – so that you have rock solid evidence in court. If you suspect your partner is cheating, hire a private investigator.

Divorce and the Hiring of an Attorney

Winning sole custody today is nearly impossible. A courtroom is no place for the weak at heart or the poor planner. A private investigator can offer a real solution that will provide you with a winning strategy so you will be prepared for your day in court.

Discovering an affair in your relationship is hard enough, but that's just the beginning of what you will face. A family court ruling will be rendered either for or against you and your children. A judge will decide who the best custodial parent is based on the evidence. If your state considers infidelity grounds for divorce, proof is essential! If you are party to a legal action, your observations, discoveries, and testimony are already tainted with bias.

Florida is a no-fault state but, in many cases, affairs have been going on for months and even years. If our investigation can prove that not only cheating has occurred but that your spouse has been spending money and purchasing lavish gifts then you are entitled to 50 percent of all the deviation of funds from the marital estate. Daniel L. Maya has seen firsthand that the cheater, in many cases, takes vacations called “business trips” and spends thousands of dollars with the other person. This is money that you, the victim of cheating, could be entitled to. It is in your best interest to hire a professional who will closely examine the obvious evidence but also the total picture which could impact your bottom-line settlement.

Understanding What To Do

You're tired of the same old answers, the same song and dance – if you suspect your partner is cheating on you, people will tell you to check his phone calls, snoop on his computer, then confront him or her.

But this is exactly what you shouldn't do – do not confront your partner about cheating without having any solid proof. A cheater is a liar, always. They will deny, lie, or make you crazy by twisting and manipulating half-truths and stories. For your sake, make sure you have enough proof before confronting your partner. For some people, enough proof is a list of phone calls or a suspicious e-mail. For many people, proof needs to be more substantial – videotape or pictures of their partner's affair. Many Maya clients need to physically see their partner with someone else before they can get past their denial and put an end to their partner's lies. Video never lies.

Time Is of the Essence

Depending on the length of an affair, your spouse may end it without ample opportunity for you to document it. On average, affairs last six months to a year and then end without your knowledge. However, in some cases, your spouse will divorce you for the other person and it may be too late to prove your case. Don't let the opportunity to capture evidence now escape you.

The Right Evidence

If you need enough proof of infidelity to bring into a court of law and present to a judge, hire a professional investigator. A knowledgeable investigator who specializes in matrimonial cases will know what evidence is needed and, more importantly, what evidence is admissible in court. There is a definite distinction between evidence for your own peace of mind and evidence that can be presented in front of a judge. A list of suspicious phone calls may be all the evidence you need, but it is probably not enough evidence to present to a judge, and it may not even be admissible evidence.

Video documentation of an affair can be enough. Computer forensic investigation made on a hard drive which uncovers old and deleted information such as e-mails is admissible in a court of law. If you are unsure about your particular situation, contact a family lawyer or consult with one of our professional investigators. At Maya & Maya Inc., we use digital cameras and other state-of-the-art equipment to give you the most solid and convincing outcome possible.

Many times, clients use an investigator who charges less, only to come to us shortly thereafter and request we fix a situation that this inexperienced and unprepared investigative agency has created. Use a professional from the start – Maya & Maya Inc.

Common Signs of Spousal Infidelity

1. When they no longer want sex or make excuses to not have sex.
2. When they will not allow you to access their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room. They may password protect their laptop or computer to keep out suspicious eyes. Or they stay up late to “work” or “play a game” on the computer after you go to bed. Excessive Internet usage, especially late at night, is a red flag.
3. When they begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with few, if any, excuses to the change in their behavior.
4. When they suddenly have to work late and have new obligations that take them away from home repeatedly or for long periods of time. Or they tell you they are working longer hours and discontinue allowing you to view their paycheck or pay stubs.
5. If your loved one works at a bar or restaurant, especially as a waitress or bartender, they might suddenly tell you not to visit them at work. This usually means they are hiding something at their workplace whether it be an affair with a co-worker or a regular customer.
7. When they suddenly need a cell phone or pager and you are discouraged from ever looking at it or using it. They also may make certain their cell phone or pages cannot be answered by you by hiding it or taking it with them wherever they go. They are secretive about their cell phone or pager bill and pay it themselves, even when you have always paid the bill in the past.
8. When they arrive home smelling faintly of perfume/cologne or another person's body.
9. When they arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath.
10. When they have lipstick or strange hairs on their clothing or in the car. Finding strange phone numbers, receipts, or condoms can also be clues.
11. When they suddenly begin to treat you extremely nice; more so than usual.
12. When they begin to make “kinky” requests or suggest wildly erotic play during sex, including things you have never done before. They may also show an increased interest in sex or sexual things, including porn.
13. When they talk to you they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect, or excessive sarcasm. They may also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship. Or they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
14. Her: when she gets spiffed up and dresses provocatively to “go grocery shopping” or to “get her hair done.” She may also show up with a sudden change of hair style. Him: when he showers, shaves, uses cologne, and dresses up more than usual to “go out with his buddies” or to “go fishing.”
15. When they break their established routine at work and home for no apparent or logical reason.
16. When they become suddenly forgetful and you have to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere.
17. When they are always tired or demonstrate a noticeable lack of energy or interest in the relationship.
18. When they begin to intentionally look at or flirt with the opposite sex when this is something they would not have done in the past.
19. When you notice that they are reluctant to kiss you or accept your affection.
20. When they ignore or criticize your affections and thoughtful ways. Example: “Why are you so lovey dovey? I'm just not like that.”
21. When your phone bill shows an increase in unexplained toll or long distance charges. Often when a partner is acting too close or flirting with a best friend of the opposite sex, you will find their phone number listed excessively.
22. When the passenger seat in the car has been changed and is not in the usual position or the mileage on the car is more than usual. Also increased gas purchases that are inconsistent with the amount of miles on the car.
23. When they begin to keep a change of clothes hidden in the trunk of the car or an unusual amount of clothes changes at the gym.
24. When you notice credit card charges for gifts (such as a florist or jewelry) that you didn't receive.
25. When they begin to make sudden and excessive purchases of clothes or an unexplained change in clothing style. Beginning to purchase sexy underwear or lingerie may be a clue.
26. When you notice an increase in ATM withdrawals. Cheating costs money! To play you must pay!
27. When you notice that your partner loses their ability and desire to show the children the attention they need or a lack of desire to do any fix-ups around the house, e.g. lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house repairs, etc. They might turn this around on you at the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or treating the child/children badly.
28. When you notice an increased attention to losing weight or paying more attention to their appearance.
29. When they begin to volunteer to go to the post office, rush to check the mail before you do, or opens up a new P.O. box, perhaps without even telling you.
30. When your partner shows up without their wedding ring or suddenly stops wearing it and makes lame excuses as to why. This also goes for jewelry you might have purchased for them and you catch them not wearing it when they go out when they used to wear it at all times.
31. When they get mysterious phone calls or when they hurry to answer the phone, leave the room to talk on the phone, and when you ask who called, they say, “No one” or “Wrong number” or “Why do you care?”
32. Simple trips, such as to the grocery store or bank, take hours rather than the time it should take.
33. Your loved one suddenly deletes all emails from the computer whereas they used to accumulate. Same goes for calls on the cell phone or caller ID.
34. Your loved one seems to pick fights or finds reasons to fight only to stomp out of the house and away from you.
35. You find a diaphragm, condom, birth control, etc., however, you have had either a vasectomy or she has had a tubal ligation.